7 Habits That Will Help You Get Your Life Back Together After Challenging Times | by Sinem Günel | The Ascent | Jan, 2021
When I first tapped into personal development at the age of 19, I was eager to read all the popular books and watch any motivational video I could find on YouTube.
Yet, after reading the first 50 books, I realized that the knowledge was nice but that it wouldn’t really transform my life.
That’s when I understood I need an action plan to turn those inspiring lessons into actual to-dos that will have an impact on my life.
“Resolutions work better when they’re concrete, not abstract. It’s hard to keep a resolution to “Be a more loving parent” than to “Get up 15 minutes early so I’m dressed before the kids wake up.”
— Gretchen Rubin
Especially after challenging times, it’s crucial to create a sense of stability through actionable resolutions and tiny habits that help you feel better.
And the key to feeling safer and more energized is taking small steps.
Whenever we try to make sudden changes, we often find ourselves feeling even more overwhelmed.
Small steps, however, allow you to take consistent action that feels easy instead of overwhelming. That’s important because it’s impossible to feel and perform well when we don’t feel safe and present.
Sticking to a daily routine, however, gives us a sense of control and helps us follow a routine that adds joy to our lives.
Brain dumping means getting your thoughts out of your mind on a piece of paper.
This is not only liberating but also a great way to come up with new ideas. Additionally, it helps you connect the dots between various thoughts that have been in your head for a while.
Writing your thoughts down helps you be in charge of your emotions and better control your feelings.
Additionally, writing your thoughts and feelings down can give you an emotional release and help you let go of negativity and the past.
What exactly you write down during those sessions doesn’t need to make sense; it just needs to help you gain clarity.
How to do it:
If you do it regularly, a few minutes will be enough to get your thoughts out of your mind on a piece of paper.
All you need to do is decide on a specific time and prepare a notebook or a few pieces of paper.
My favorite time to do this exercise is in the morning or shortly before going to bed.
Your resolution could be to do a 5-minute brain dumping session before brushing your teeth each evening.
Just sit down for five minutes and write down anything that has been on your mind.